The Other Child is a collection of deeply moving testimonials by those affected when infidelity results in a pregnancy. Laura Giles has been careful to include representative experiences by every member of these tangled relationships: the spouse, the other man, the other woman and the other child. The result is disturbing, poignant, and probably healing to anyone who has been in the same situation.
When a child is the result of a spouse's cheating, the pain of betrayal is magnified by the need of the child for support that drains resources from the legitimate family. The cheating spouse's desire to have a relationship with the out-of-wedlock offspring brings further tensions as legitimate spouses worry the contact with the other woman will lead to further infidelity. Some spouses embrace the other child, even offering to adopt and support it. Others are so filled with anger and jealousy they cannot even look at the baby and insist the wayward spouse sever all ties. In one case, a spouse was forced to take a job to support her husband's other child.
The other child is not only a source of tension for the legitimate spouse, but a baby that needs financial support and the love of both parents. The problem is that is not always possible.
One angry spouse summed up the pain this way:
"I will leave him if he does have a relationship with the child. I have extreme hate for this woman and do wish terrible things for her everyday. I have taken her garbage so I can learn more about her. I have posted her picture [on the internet.] I think about it on a daily basis. I would love counseling, but cannot afford it. I would love to forget it, but I can't."
Another who worked things out with her spouse and even went so far as to adopt the other child responds: