You Lost Your Marriage Not Your Life
by Barbara Miller

Mill City Press, 2009. ISBN 1-936107-16-3.
Reviewed by Trilla Pando
Posted on 12/21/2009

Nonfiction: Memoir; Nonfiction: Relationships

Facing the secret nightmare of many married women, Barbara Miller lived through her bad dream-come-true. Returning home from a Thanksgiving visit to her ailing mother, she found her credit cards canceled, her house trashed, and her husband gone—for good.

In the first part of her book Miller traces out the experience, admirably admitting that the failure was two-sided. That didn't stop the hurt or the anger. Skillfully working in the stories of other women, she shares this anger and hurt and how, with the help of friends and her daughter, she made a full recovery into a fuller and better life; and, one that sounds like a whole lot more fun than the old one.

In the remainder of the book she provides a hands-on user manual for those going through similar experiences. "Do not look back on past mistakes and heartaches and lament, look forward to the challenge of your future and rejoice," she tells her readers and then tells them how to do it, covering everything from "Getting Physical" with illustrated-by-the-author exercise instructions to spirituality with a stop-over about forming new relationships.

One limitation, which the author will surely remedy in future editions, is the distraction of multiple typographical errors and misspellings, particularly in the final sections of the book.

Barbara Miller now lives and works in Naples, Florida and is, at last, happily married to David. President of Barbara and Company, which markets her line of beauty products, she is a frequent speaker and teacher. Visit her website.

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