Affairs and betrayals have become so commonplace that the usual response is that they happen everyday and so what? Unfortunately, "so what" is the devastation and trauma experienced by the person who was betrayed. And although folks are fond of suggesting that the woman just get over it and move on, the process is nowhere near that simple or that quick.
After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity is the book I wish I'd had when I was going through this. Using excerpts from many women's stories, Callander takes the reader on a journey of understanding and healing. She makes plain the volatility of discovery and recovery and acknowledges the time and intense work required to move beyond surviving to thriving again.
After His Affair is an immensely reassuring book, yet difficult to read as it may trigger memories and feelings one thought had been resolved. The good news is that even these triggered moments lead to a deeper understanding of the experience, especially because Callander offers suggestions and strategies to cope with and eventually move beyond the trauma.
One of the helpful things about After His Affair is the Chapter Synopsis listed at the beginning. It is easy to peruse the synopsis and jump right to the chapter you might most need at the moment. Also, the individual voices of the women give each chapter a strong voice.
Callander does not shy away from discussing the effect affairs have on the children in the family. She deals with these issues with sensitivity and compassion, but does not avoid the harsh realities nor minimize the struggle to recover.
I will recommend this book to others I know experiencing the aftermath of a partner's affair because, sadly, it does happen every day.
Read an excerpt from this book.
Meryn G. Callander's latest book, After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity is a reflection of her concern at the escalating rates of infidelity and the devastation that is left in its wake. She is a counselor, spiritual intuitive, and akashic reader. Visit her website.
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